8.26.2016

real talk: on a work/life balance


Isn't Jessie Randall's office a place you'd like to be, too? Maybe it's how pretty she is (and her shoes) or maybe it's the wide open, creative space, but I'd really like to be sitting at the other side of that desk! 

I feel like I've been sort of off the radar for nearly five months since having Watson. My normal weekly blog posts haven't been happening consistently and I'm really sorry for that! I promise, promise to be back in full force one day so soon. Like, Monday through Friday—back at it. The truth is, I've been feeling a little spread thin lately, so Brandon and I have been having a lot of talks about how to fix this. 

I really never took any type of break, or maternity leave if you will, after having Watson. I just kept telling myself, "I'll slow down soon," but here we are almost five months later and I never did. If you're newer around here, you probably don't know that I also sell real estate in Charleston and work as a marketing coordinator for my in-law's jewelry store. Both are part time roles, but those jobs, along with blogging and taking care of a new baby, don't leave much time left for anything else! Like hanging out with Brandon at the end of the day, or going to the gym, or finally unpacking my suitcase one week later. And for some reason, ever since Watson was born, real estate has been keeping me busier than ever! I had a closing from my hospital bed the day after Watson was born and was out showing houses to two different clients less than two weeks postpartum. (Now that I think back on this, it makes me so mad at myself for not totally escaping reality and spending every waking moment with my brand new bundle. Oh, the mom guilt.) 

Not complaining—I LOVE my work and am a million percent thankful for the flexibility my multiple-hats kind of career gives me. It allowed me to be with my mom when she was sick and now home with our Watson. And I would work all day long if I could, but there just aren't enough hours in the day to manage all that I want to. And that gets me down, honestly. Not ever being able to completely wipe off my to-do list is so frustrating for this type-A personality of mine. So something has to change. It just does. I don't really know what it's going to be, but I did step down from my fuller capacity role with The Everygirl to carve out a little extra room in my schedule, so that's a little start. 

Anyway, ALL OF THIS is to say that this is why I haven't been posting as much lately! I have to keep reminding myself that putting something to the side, like posting on this blog every day, is the absolute least I can do if that means I can devote that time to Watson. But at the same time, this blog is the one part of my career that truly feels like fun to me and I've really been missing it ...and you guys! So I'm working on switching some priorities around and managing my schedule a bit better because I am really dying to devote more time to posting new content every day.

I know so many of you can relate to feeling spread thin and not being able to get the things you want to do crossed off your to do list. I'm really trying to master a work/life balance, but just not doing the best at it. Any tips for how you juggle it all?

Well, I came on here to write about some clothes that I've been eyeing, but this is what my fingers typed instead. Thanks for reading along! And pound it, it's Friday! Hope you all have a fun weekend ahead. We are having Watson baptized on Sunday. I'm so, so excited. 


13 comments:

  1. Yay for Watson's baptism!!! It honestly took me 10 months postpartum to finally emerge from survival mode, and I didn't even realize I was in it until I got OUT. Have beaucoups of grace for yourself -- this time in your life is temporary and precious and you have to have an extremely discerning eye and let go of anything that doesn't matter. You're doing a phenomenal job! You still do post here often (way more than any of us would expect, given your load!!), so no apologies or explanations necessary. :) It'll all come with time.

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  2. I have a 3 year old and 13 month old. Similar to you I'm in the mortgage industry and never took a maternity leave. But you know how our industry is- it will slow down and just make sure to allow yourself to really take time off then and not worry about business. Also, it took me till she was almost a year and I stopped breastfeeding to really feel totally in control again. I think a lot of working moms feel this way. One last thing I try to do is wake up before them and drink coffee and relax- that seems to help. Good luck - it will all work out. :)

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  3. Megs, just know you are doing a GREAT job! Biggest thing I can tell you is to prioritize EVERYTHING in your life, and if it doesn't get done that day, that week, that month, that's ok. Stick to your priorities. I think for a first time mommy, you are juggling everything perfectly. Obviously I don't see your day in and out but Watson seems happy, you and Brandon seem happy, and you are still contributing with your career and having fun doing it. I could barely make it to drs appointments with Blaine at 2 weeks PP much less being presentable and showing houses. You are doing something right, just don't forget to take care of yourself, that is the hardest thing for us moms.

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  4. You are a rock start lady...so much going on! But you are right - sometimes you need to make time for yourself! As a type A too, I know it is hard to back away from projects and things sometimes. Working and having a family, and keeping up with your passions and hobbies is hard - but there is a way to prioritize and do it all...you got this ;) xx

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  5. Mom guilt is real and you will never shake it. I have a full-time job and a clothing business on the side and there is never any down time. Saying all that, the two hours before bed and the morning with the little are solely devoted to her. Also carve out Friday/Saturday nights to absolutely no work and completely devoted to spending times with friends and family.

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  6. I can't wait for new regular content! I hope you have fun with Watson on Sunday and that everything goes swimmingly!

    Abigail Alice x

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  7. I'm 6 months pp and just now feeling like myself and that I can handle everything in the day. I'm going back to work part time which helps with the work/life balance.

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  8. You'll figure out what works best for you and your family! It's hard. It took me awhile to feel normal and balanced and now here we are looking at going through another adjustment adding number 2 in 5 months! Such is this time in life.

    The fact that you recognize something is off means you're a great mom and partner. You got this!

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  9. This resonated SO much with me...I'm almost 7 months PP, and like you, never took a break. I'm working on a PhD and teach at a university in NC and was answering emails from the hospital! I can scarcely believe the amount of time I gave my students and job while my sweet boy was so tiny. It's hard to be so driven and give your BEST to everyone and everything. Recently, I read a quote that said, "You're an amazing employee and an amazing mother, but it's rare that you'll be both on the same day." I've accepted that as my new reality.

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  10. I SUCK at work-life balance. And honestly a lot of the times think it's a myth. But all we can do is the best we can, when we can. And it sounds like that's exactly what you're doing!

    Her Heartland Soul
    herheartlandsoul.com

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  11. I am older than you, with kids older than your sweet baby, and I echo what Mell21 says above about getting up earlier than everyone else to have coffee and wake up in silence. I call this my "Quiet Time" and it is precious to me. I guard it with everything I have. I have been a stay at home mom, worked part time, and now work full time in a corporate track career. I love working, and I am no longer ashamed to admit this; in fact, I embrace it. Some are wired this way, and I suspect you are too. Embrace it, along with your limitations, and you will be fine. And be selfish about your quiet time, or whatever makes you feel really complete independently. For me, nothing is more delicious than a steaming cup of freshly brewed coffee in a dark, silent living room with my blogs and shopping emails, lol. But for you it may be something else. Find it, and make it a priority!

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  12. Oh the balance after a baby! I honestly am not sure anyone has figured out the perfect way to balance because afterall it seems as though you have balance with work and baby then realize you need to balance husband time, friend time, family time, self time, etc. It will all fall into place sooner than later! Perhaps y'all could look at getting someone to come watch Watson while you work in your bedroom a couple hours a week? I always say it takes a village to raise a child...and I have to add to balance it all out. ;)

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