I asked you guys on Instagram to hit me with all the questions… I picked out some of the most popular ones and am answering them below!
What do you to your hair to maintain such a cool-toned blonde color?
I have an ashy toned darker base color, so my hair naturally has a cooler look to it. But the blonde highlights definitely turn brassy if I don’t take care of them! I use AMIKA Bust Your Brass Cool Blonde Shampoo about 3x per week. (Which is usually how many times I end up washing my hair each week anyway.) It’s a purple shampoo and it makes my hair feel so healthy rather than stripped of natural oils, like a lot of other purple shampoos have done for me. Lather up as usual and leave it on for a few minutes. But you do have to be careful not to leave it on too long or else your hair will look a little purple at certain angles. This happens to me a lot! So just keep an eye on it until you determine how long is best. I normally leave it on while I shave my legs, then rinse it off.
What are some closet basics that everyone should have in their closet?
I really have a pretty simple wardrobe. I think a lot of people would be surprised that my closet is not packed to the brim at all with clothing because I’m very selective over what I choose to keep and I also purge a LOT. A few favorite closet basics? I will always have three really good pairs of skinny jeans on hand—one in white (these are good and a steal!), one in a light blue wash, and one dark denim color (swear by these—size down). Three button down shirts—one white (like this!), one light blue, and one with blue & white stripes (recently picked up this one). A great black dress that I know will look good whenever wherever is definitely a must. Also, a winter coat in a bright color is my favorite pop of fun in my wardrobe. I have one in a poppy red. I feel like that color looks good on me, and when winter days are drab, it’s nice to have something cheerful to wear like that. I’m also a huge fan of a good white t shirt. I love this one. I keep summer footwear simple. I literally almost always am wearing these in the cocobutter color. They are simple, the color of my skin, and go with whatever. I love a good mule in the winter! I splurged on these, but LIVE in these and also love these!
If you had never met Brandon and were still single, what do you think you’d be doing right now at this point in your life?
It’s so hard for me to even imagine this since Brandon and I met and started our relationship when we were kids. I 100% think I’d still be a mom had I not met him—it fulfills my life and I think it would have been a priority no matter who I married. I don’t know where I’d be living, but I doubt it would be far from where I am now. I’m a homebody and don’t think I could ever be too far away from my parents! I also think I would still be a blogger because I started this before I even graduated from college. So in summary, I truly do think my life would look a lot like it does now, haha!
Thinking about moving to Charleston post grad, any advice moving to a new city/adjusting to post grad life?
I had a breakdown after college, not going to lie! It’s the first time I ever felt like a fish out of water. Maybe “breakdown” is a little dramatic, but let’s just say I didn’t enjoy the transition into post-grad life. I actually landed a great job before I even graduated, so I had about one week after school ended before I started my career. I really wish I had taken about a month or two (at least) to enjoy a little bit of life before jumping into something. It was a great experience that I don’t regret, but I had just put so much concentration on finding a career that I didn’t enjoy that transitional period of my life. I wish I had taken some time to travel and learn some about myself first.
My advice to you is not what your parents will tell you. If you’re moving to Charleston for the first time, I’d suggest putting a lot of focus on the fun and not on the professional/work side of things. This is an incredible place to live, so meet as many people as you can, go out for happy hour, spend the whole day at the beach, walk up and down King Street and South of Broad admiring the beautiful homes, find a favorite coffee spot, go to Riverdogs games—just enjoy it as much as you can. That should be your #1 focus at the beginning. Everything else will fall into place.
Charleston is a small enough place that you’ll see the same people over and over within no time. There are also plenty of clubs for young professionals you could look into joining as well, like Junior League. I’d also recommend checking out the Charleston Visitor’s Bureau website so you can get a look at the city social calendar. There are fun events every single weekend!
What does your husband do for a living?
Brandon is a Civil Engineer who works on transportation infrastructure projects.
What is your go to natural mascara?
Lily Lolo! I use the one in the black tube, which is the volumizing one. The one in the white tube has more of a natural finish. I haven’t tried that one before, but it has a cult following! I’m telling y’all, the Lily Lolo mascaras are AMAZING. The best ever—natural or not!
I would love to know more about your Realtor career!
I had a few questions about this. I put forth a lot of effort into it when we moved back to Charleston in 2015 and managed to create a good base of clients around that time. After Watson was born, I continued to work with repeat clients and client referrals, but didn’t put forth any effort into finding new clients. After Rosie arrived, I started referring any repeat clients to other Realtors because my blog work (and children!) take up my entire day and it makes more sense to me financially to keep my focus there. I still have a passion for real estate though and plan to keep my license active for the foreseeable future—even if that’s just for our own personal sales and purchases.
How did you know you were ready for kids? What is it like being a younger business woman with young children?
I wanted children from the very second we got married, but the longer we were married without children, the more comfortable I became with the thought of waiting a while before having them. We ended up getting pregnant with Watson a few months after our 2nd anniversary. To be 100% honest with you, I made the decision that I was ready to have kids when my mom became very sick with Ulcerative Colitis (I can finally say that she is all better now!), but we had a few scares where I just wasn’t sure if my mom would make it. Because of that, I wanted to have kids ASAP because I wanted my parents to have maximum amount of time with my children as possible and I honestly just wanted to bring a light into our lives during a hard time. I knew I was ready deep down anyway, but that just confirmed it. Having children and seeing my parents love them has to be the best thing in the world.
Being a business woman (who stays home) with young children is exhausting because there’s rarely ever a moment when I’m not either working or taking care of the kids, but I’m so thankful to be able to work and be with them most all day long. I strive to have a good balance, but I really don’t. I just aim to not to have major mom guilt if I have a heavy work day where I am not playing with the kids all day and likewise, I try not to be hard on myself if I completely ignore work for an entire day to do something with family.
What kind of camera do you use and how to you get the focus of your shots so perfect??
I use a Canon 5D Mark iii with a Canon f/1.8 50mm lens. In all of my shots, I use AV mode and set the aperture down to about 2.8. This creates a blurry background and a sharp center focus. Brandon takes my pictures and does a great job. This sounds super technical, but it’s literally all we know! We need to take a photography class. A lot of my photos turn out fuzzy and out of focus, but we just take a bunch and that way I have some good ones to choose from!
You’re adventurous with your style while still keeping it classic and classy! How???
This is so nice and flatters me greatly because this is what I always strive to do. I rarely latch onto trends, but when I do, I try to choose just one trendy thing per outfit and that’s it. So maybe that’s a pair of wide leg culotte jeans (like above!) or maybe that one trendy thing is a certain piece of jewelry. Whatever it is, I do it very subtly and just make sure the rest of my outfit is classic and very “me.”
What’s your most favorite everyday bra?
This one! It’s amazing.
sunglasses (brown tortoise color)