Hello 2020! And hello to all of you after a couple weeks away over the holidays. It was a really much needed break and time to recharge. We also celebrated Rosie’s 2nd birthday while I was away. Her golden birthday! There was certainly a lot to celebrate over the last couple of weeks.
Now that we are not only in a new year, but also a new decade, I thought it would be a great time to do some self-reflection. So much has changed since we entered the last decade. Back in 2010, I was still in college and had just started this blog. Who knew there was so much to come, like getting married, buying (and selling) a few homes with Brandon, and of course, having a couple of children. I also never would have guessed that writing that same little blog would later become my career, because back then, this was simply just for fun, as no one really had a blog as a business. (It still is fun for me, for the record!) Had I made a vision board back in 2010 and slated where I wanted my life to go within the next 10 years, I honestly think it would be pretty spot on with where my life is now. Not that it’s anything extravagant, but I definitely don’t take the accomplishments and life steps I’ve taken with my family for granted.
As for my visions and goals for the years ahead? I definitely have some areas in my life that I’d like to improve. And I not only want to make these changes for 2020, but I want to make sure they are sustained for the decade and then some. Today I’m sharing those resolutions, as well as reflecting on some previous goals I’ve been successful in accomplishing in the 2010s.
Here’s to a fresh start! And if you’re like me and your children are going back to school today on January 6th, maybe we can just call this our January 1st. Or whatever reason you personally have for not getting started on your goals, please join me now. I haven’t been able to get my routine going until now, so I’m pretending the start to the new year is right now. It’s never too late to start on self improvement!
1. Have 15 minutes of quiet time every day.
I think my body and mind is craving some alone time each day where I shut off my brain and do something good for my soul. For some this might mean meditation or reading a self improvement book, but for me, I want my 15 minutes to be spent with God. To do this, I’ve been enjoying three new books that I had on my Christmas list and then kindly received as gifts. The first is a new Bible. Mine is She Reads Truth and I’ve truly enjoyed it so far. I love that the cover is so calming and it looks beautiful on my bedside table, so it’s never out of sight when I’m in my room. A constant reminder to pick it up and take my quiet time. The next is Be Still: 90 Devotions for the Hopeful Heart (also on Amazon), written by Cleere Cheerey, who I really love following on Instagram. She writes the most beautiful devotions and I love her Monday morning prayers she shares each week. This devotional book takes those to another level. I highly recommend! Each devotion is headed by a bible verse. What I’ve been doing is reading the day’s devotion, then reading that verse in my Bible, as well as the whole chapter it’s placed within. I’ve also really loved this devotional by Joyce Meyer, which I’ve owned for over a year now. Lastly, the other book I received and the one I haven’t yet started reading but plan to soon, is 100 Bible Verses Everyone Should Know By Heart. It was written by a well known Pastor out of TN who is also a best selling author. The reviews are amazing and make me want to dig into it immediately.
2. Stop multi-tasking.
Just like most mothers, I am the queen of multi-tasking. I can cook a meal, write an email, and interact with Watson and Rosie at the same time. But I realized recently that when I do this, I may feel like I’m succeeding, but I’m really failing. I am not being 100% a mother to my children or giving 100% to my work. Moving into the new year, I want to be more present and intentional with my time. Of course this isn’t realistic all of the time, but I want to designate a certain part of the day where I’m truly WITH my children, not just in the same room with them. Likewise, when I’m working, I want to be truly working. I think this will make me a better mother and more efficient with my time when it comes to work.
3. Keep up a good skincare routine.
I feel like I have a really good routine going on now. Not that my skin is anywhere near perfect, but it’s good right now for me. I’ll share my routine soon. I’ve always put a high priority on taking care of my skin and never go to bed without doing my nightly rituals. My goal is to keep this up in this new decade!
4. Stock healthier foods in our kitchen and pantry.
I know the idea of healthy eating is on everyone’s resolution list, but mine really comes down to the snacking! Maybe that means I need to start cooking more or being more intentional with my shopping lists, rather than running through Trader Joe’s like a girl who hasn’t eaten a meal in a week. Our pantry is full of Doritos (Organic ones, but… Doritos), cookies, and lots of other indulgences. Not that I want those to go away, but I want to balance it with healthy options too.
5. Find an exercise routine that works for me.
Even if that’s just walking 30 minutes a day or doing a fairly quick yoga video at home. Whatever it might be, I just want to stick with something because it has been over four years since I’ve had a true workout routine. When I got pregnant with Watson, I stopped going to the gym and then I never ever got back to it consistently. I’ve found that to succeed in this goal, it has to come down to planning and prioritizing exercise time for myself. I’ve already scheduled in one class per week at Pure Barre, which hopefully will become a non-negotiable. I’d like to fit in one more weekly class (of any kind—doesn’t have to be barre. maybe yoga!) and then walk on the other days. I also am going to try some at home workouts. I’ll keep you posted on what I choose to do! Whatever it is, I just want to make it a routine and not a guessing game.
6. Keep up my practice of tossing clothes and clutter.
I have to pat myself on the back that I’ve been very good at letting things go. I really don’t hold attachment to material things, aside from my special jewelry and of course there are a few other material exceptions. Every month, I go through my closet and pull out things I just don’t feel a connection to and haven’t worn. I put it in the guest room closet. Then, every 3-4 months, I look at the collection of clothing I’ve built in there and decided what to donate and what to sell. (I sell my clothes with The Saved Collection!)
7. Grow my business by hiring someone to help.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in 2019, it’s that I can only do so much. I’m sure many of you can relate since we all are just so busy with our own things, whether it’s with work, kids, or both! There were a lot of times this year that I felt physically and mentally overwhelmed because I’m trying to do it all at once. The sad thing is, I don’t know what I have to show for it! My time wasn’t really spent writing truly valuable blog posts, which is something I want to do more of this year. My time was rather spent on back end things, which is simply inevitable in any business and oh so time consuming. For me, those back end things look like bookkeeping, sifting through emails, website edits, constant draft submittals and then revisions, product sourcing for new projects, finding links for people, creating collages in photoshop, negotiating contracts, editing photos, submitting vendor forms and other paperwork, etc. I know my time would be better spent connecting with you guys through creating content that serves you better. I’d love to write blog posts that teach, inspire, and connect. And for me to create time to do that, I know I’ll have to bring on help. I haven’t quite figured out what that position looks like yet, but I will keep you posted when I do. I have to admit that it’s scary for me, too, because I’m such an independent person when it comes to my work. I like working solo. But it’s exciting to think about at the same time!
8. Find better organization systems.
I’m so organized until I’m not. That may not make sense to you, but I create all of these great systems but the moment I fall off the wagon, I get so unorganized. My mom actually told me yesterday that I carry around a handbag full of trash, and that’s the truth. I carry around a bag full of wrappers and receipts. I honestly don’t even know where my wallet is right now! I think once I implement #2 and #7, my organization will follow suit. Or at least that’s the goal!
9. GO TO BED.
My mom texts me almost every night around 11 and tells me to go to bed. I need to start listening to her! Definitely a goal for 2020. Sleep is important, so I hear.
10. Print photos and create a photo album for each year.
When I was creating my “2019 review” for IG stories, I went through my camera roll and added all of my favorite photos from the year to a specific iPhone album. I’d like to print those photos and put them in an actual photo album like this one. I’m so guilty of not doing this and I know we will want to have this to look back on years down the road. I’d also maybe like to write something in Watson and Rosie’s baby books… oops!
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